Altavia Anniversary was lots of fun, but oh MAN, did I suck on the rapier front. It was confusing, it was annoying, it was frustrating, and it was discouraging. By the end of the day, I was so frustrated, I didn't want to fight anymore. I pretty much just wanted to dig a hole and sit in it for awhile. In short, I was sulking.
When I was in high school, I did a lot of performing. I sang in two choirs, did every school play, and the yearly musical. When I first started performing, I would spend most of my on-stage time making sure I was saying the right lines, doing the right dance steps, staying in tune, harmonizing correctly, and, when I remembered, being nervous. As the years passed, the stage fright and self-analysis faded, and it got to the point where I didn't even think anymore, I just did. The really good performances, I couldn't even remember once I got off stage. It wasn't that I was performing by rote or that I was bored--I became a vehicle for my technique.
I'm not at that point in my fencing game. I'm still in the first blush of learning new stuff, where a lot of my time on the field is preoccupied with thinking. I think about what I'm going to do, I think about my calibration and measure, I think about the person I'm fighting, I think about speed, I think about everything. This isn't necessarily at bad thing at the moment--as long as I'm not preoccupied with negative brain stuff, like nervousness or self-consciousness, it's okay. I'm supposed to be analyzing and applying my new skills and techniques, and if I have to think about them to do them right now, that's okay. For now. Eventually, it'll get to the point where I don't have to think about it (not one day too soon, in my opinion), but not today.
Well, yesterday, I wasn't thinking at all. I wasn't analyzing, planning, scheming, plotting, or concocting. By the end of the day, I wasn't even reacting. And it sucked.
That point, the part where I'm not thinking, I'm just doing, is the Zen I'm constantly harping on about. Sometimes I feel it--or, at least, feel it in the aftermath, because it sort of asserts itself without my noticing and I don't realize until it's gone that it was there at all. I know I won't have the Zen fencing every fight forever once I hit a certain point, but I'd like to have it regularly once I improve a little bit. For now, I'm stuck with my brain making noise most of the time.
I can't really remember any of my fights from yesterday. I can remember the fights from practice, I can remember the fights from Darach Anniversary last week, but I can't remember the fights from yesterday. I remember my first fight with Don Andre pretty well, because I was thinking and had a plan and all that good stuff, but everything after that was just awful.
As I think I've said before, I don't get annoyed when I lose, especially not when I lose to someone who's been fighting a lot longer and is a lot better than I am. I get annoyed when I lose and I can't figure out what I did wrong or how I got killed. That was my day all day yesterday.
Dons Andre and Alexander were kind enough to walk me through the fights afterward and, as always, Laertes was right there before and after to give me tips, pointers, suggestions, and encouragement. I'm lucky enough to be surrounded by very patient, encouraging, inspiring people who are willing to give their time and energy to help me improve my game, even when I'm being a bit of a brat about it.
I think this is the first hurdle Laertes mentioned I'd hit--where I'm getting a lot of new information and trying to implement it. He said the first little while of the studentship would be really frustrating because I wouldn't be improving, even though I had all these shiny new tricks and ideas to use. Quite possible.
Man, I wish I didn't get discouraged so easily. I've always been better at talking myself down than shoring myself up, and the more something matters to me, the harder I am on myself. I may not be a great fencer, but I have, like, a black belt in beating myself up.
This is something I notice in my personal life as well--the arsenal of things I have to make me feel good about myself is far outgunned by the arsenal of things I have to make myself feel worse. But that's a post for another day and another blog.
The solution to this, obviously, is more practice. Nate (Dylan, to those of you in the scene) suggested that maybe I was being too hard on myself and driving myself too hard to perform, but I think the opposite is true--I'm not practicing enough, or drilling enough. I know that results won't come overnight, but if I don't feel like I'm really doing my all, I have a reason to feel bad about my performance. If I feel like I'm working hard enough, I have no reason to beat up on myself. Slow and steady and all that.
I wasn't feeling great at the beginning of Darach practice today, and my first fight with Askell was terrible and very discouraging, but Don Alexander worked with me for entirely longer than he should have at playing with constraints (I've gotten how they worked just fine, it's the what to do after I get up in the face part I've had trouble with). After that I was back in the learning headspace and feeling a lot better.
Once more unto the breach, dear friends...
(Also, I have some new drills. More on those later.)
I have had those days, too - instead of the inner calm that is Zen, it's like white noise. Both lack form or thought, but the one allows you to be a vehicle for your technique, the other stymies it. Deeply frustrating, but it usually passes soon enough. I find that focusing on doing only one thing perfectly (a guard, a strike, a bit of footwork, etc) for a while helps work through the fugue (perhaps you got that with Alexander today?).
ReplyDeleteDon't believe yourself when you speak ill of yourself, you rock.
Gracias, Lorccicakes. Yeah, I think I'm hitting the first plateau I've hit in the last, oh, two years or so, and it's very frustrating! Today wasn't great either, but fencing a tree for awhile and Don Alexander's constraint training was very helpful in getting me back into the mood.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the nice words.
I presume you're familiar with the four stages of competence way of looking at things, since you seem to allude to it here. I find I cannot think and fight at the same time, so I get frustrated easily moving to conscious competence.
ReplyDeleteHuh. Actually, I'd never heard of those. Good brain-fodder, and it certainly seems accurate. I like the potential fifth level of reflective competence, too. Good link!
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"Nate (Dylan, to those of you in the scene) suggested that maybe I was being too hard on myself and driving myself too hard to perform, but I think the opposite is true--I'm not practicing enough, or drilling enough".
If you tend to beat yourself up, you are not a good, objective source for opinions regarding your performance. Listen to those you respect, and remember that self-flagellation (whether mental or physical) provides absolutely no useful benefits to your heart, mind or body. Do something more constructive with your energy.
Cathy/Alia la rousse
Alia--
ReplyDeleteFINE, go ahead and make SENSE. Jeebus.
(Thanks.)
Unfortunately, given recent back issues and work stress, I really *don't* feel like I've put enough into the fencing game in the last couple weeks. Being a naturally lazy person, I have to kick my own ass to get myself out and about. When I'm stressed, distracted, or busy, exercise is always the first thing to fall by the wayside, even though I know it'll help me feel better.
You're absolutely right, though--I am my own worst critic (aren't we all?). I'm not really sure how to improve that AND work hard enough to satisfy myself at the same time. :s
on playing with constraints; not sure what Alex's advise is, but you can take advantage of the next step by watching what your opponent does. He has 1 of 4 options;
ReplyDelete1) he can attack you. If you have a good constraint and dominance over the sword this is unlikely, but if they do, you can easily counter-attack through their attack
2) He can move in order to attack on a new line. You follow the weapon and counter-attack through the new line, working in a shorter time and distance
3) He can move and not attack. You move to maintain dominance and hopefully get a little closer, again use a tempo to get where you are going.
4) He can stand still. In which case you get close enough to punk him before he can move.
Meditate.
Frustation sucks. Big nasty ones. Unfortunately, it's part of the process. As I've said ad nauseum over the years, I got stuck in a rut for three years after being taken under wing. I never made it past the second round in all that time. I watched friends that started at the same time progress and excel. I, too, got frustrated, sometimes despondent and, upon occasion, a bit pissy - BUT - I knew I wasn't going to stop because I never lost sight of the fact that I was having fun. How many people get to go out and stab their friends on weekends and not get arrested (or, at least, have to flee across the border)? One should never lose sight of the fact we are doing this for fun. We train to get better, but we fight to have fun with our friends. Winning is a reflection that the effort you put in during training is starting to work - and that takes time. Believe me, as part of our arrangement, I'll let you know if I think you are going backwards. FWIW, I think you are exactly where you should be in the scheme of things: frustrated, thinking too much and questioning your progress. BUT - you are still out there growing, learning and persevering. You have started to completely revamp and refine your style. You are thinking about more factors that are in play during a bout. The process takes time - and nothing can change that.
ReplyDeleteAnd, one final note, feel free to pull me aside and vent at events - it's part of the job. :)
so I have no idea if this thing is one , its victor by the way, and I wan to say that yes practice is needed but platues are acceptable similarly hand eye cordination takes time to figure out frustration is part of it but not hte whole thing. pat trained me back in the day and I spent a lot of time playing with stuff (and dieing like no ones business) until I figured out how to move my muscles and then more time to figure out how to not think about it! best of luck and i think I figured out how to post on this thing woot
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